Why nice guys cant get girls

You meet someone who wants what you want. You want a relationship, and she wants a friendship. It happens all the time. Get over it. A nice guy is a bare minimum, and most women want more than the bare minimum. Much more.

Smart, stable, emotionally available women want to date intelligent, stable, emotionally available men. Women want more than nice. And for the most part, so do men. I want a badass, smart, capable, emotionally available, fun, and sexy woman. I want her to be dependable, handy, honest, funny, strong, vulnerable, and authentic. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. Women are emotional beings and they enjoy experiencing a wide spectrum of emotions.

Leave a little mystery about you. Be a bit of a challenge. Remember, predictability is boring AF. I realize how much we hear how women want commitment from men. So, nice guys want to be that one guy who gives them commitment. When you give commitment so easily, she will never cherish it, because it came so easily.

Always remember, men are the gatekeepers of commitment, just as women are the gatekeepers of sex. And speaking of sex…. However, since there is little to no excitement, nor challenge or mystery, there is no sexual tension. And with no sexual tension, the actual act of sex is lackluster and lacks passion. So, being able to sex her up really good will definitely help keep her attracted. The typical nice guy sees playful teasing as being a jerk, preventing himself from joining in the the fun banter.

This leaves her disappointed and emotionally unsatisfied. They do this as a way to paint the picture of who they want women to believe they are.

However, this is typically compensating, because they know deep down they are not that person. He was honest about his interest in me, AND he is nice by any definition of the term, not just to me, but to everyone. Over a few days of observation, I witnessed his character. He refused to gossip about others this made me feel a lot safer to sleep with him. He helped a lot of people, not just attractive younger women, but men and older women and other people he was unlikely to have sex with.

Thank you for telling me. Both of us said the conversation left us feeling respected. Watch this space for stories about nomadic living and single motherhood by choice. Sign in. Felicia C. What 7 years on the dating scene as an ex-pat in Asia taught me about niceness and attraction. Ija Mei Follow. I Love You Relationships now.